If most who are struggling with depression, stopped to think why, they most probably would not find the answer! At least not right away! That is where the danger lay, not knowing why, not knowing how to deal with it, thus giving up to find the answer! They struggle with embarrassment, isolation, rejection, not having answers to the questions they take what they think to be the easy route!
That route may be drugs, drinking, anything to reduce the pain even to the point of suicide not realizing they are not alone! Yet when they are not encouraged to talk about it, seek help for it, and not hide from it, they think themselves as the scourge of society and rejected for being misunderstood! They miss the part where anything is fixable as long and you do not deny you have the problem!
Denial not only hurts them it can kill them, they have to be reminded over and over they are precious and needed! For themselves and most certainly for others around them struggling with the same thing! Answers are not easily found, yet they can be found! We as friends and family, even though we may not understand, need to learn from them, listen to them, giving them the time they need!
I understand that different personalities are involved and some folks choose to stay the way they are giving up the fight! But they need to be reminded, even they did not get there overnight, so a remedy and a fix may take just as long to achieve success as it did to get depressed! There is no quick fix, many times we need to endure the pain of time!
Yet never give up, never lose your value, in the end it will be worth the pain and work it took to guide them through their journey! Never forget that it is real, it is genuine, and it is dangerous, never ever take it lightly or shrug it off as a passing thing! When you do that becomes a most dangerous place also! Always remember you cannot fix them alone, if they do not contribute to their recovery, it becomes more of an enabling event instead of a recovering one!
Walk with them never let them feel alone, but encourage them to work also! We have all struggled with depression at one time or another, but no two people are alike! The less one talks about it the deeper they go pay attention and give support! Philippians 4:6-7 is always a good place to start even for ourselves!
Philippians 4:6-7 New King James Version (NKJV)
6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.